Habits of a Healthy Relationship

Let's face it; a lot of relationship advice is very self-evident: be encouraging, express your feelings to the other person, and talk to them. But what about the more complicated and genuine aspects of the relationship? I'm referring to issues like dealing with disappointment, conflict, and shifting desires.

Here are some healthy behaviors that may initially surprise you:

1. Their time away is enjoyable.

Don't you think it makes sense to want to spend as much time as you can with your partner if you're happy together? Actually, no. It might be easy to let a relationship with someone you love control your life. It's possible that you'll find yourself wanting to hang out with all of their friends, get involved in all of their interests, or just spend every waking hour with them. If that occurs, it's time to use the brakes. When you and your partner keep different identities, you both retain the essential elements of what makes you both special and what first drew you to each other. Your partnership has a chance to breathe and develop when you both have different hobbies, interests, and social circles, as well as when you learn to appreciate time apart.

2.Other than their partner, they are attracted to other individuals.

Many individuals think that any attraction, no matter how temporary, to someone who is not your partner is a betrayal of them. Most of us are biologically programmed to be able to find different people attractive, which is a fact of life. When you're in a relationship, there isn't a switch in your own brain that turns and makes that aspect of you disappear. This sets off an unhealthy cycle of resentment, guilt, and defense in certain relationships. In other cases, it really strengthens your bond and infuses your connection with fresh vigor and desire. Take a minute to relish the sensation of being drawn to a new person. Then take a big breath, let it go, and focus that energy on your relationship.

3. Unresolved issues exist between them.

Resolving disagreements is essential to any good relationship, right? No, surprisingly. According to research, even the happiest couples with the longest relationships still have arguments from time to time. The relationships that last are those in which both partners recognize that arguments, even significant ones, cannot destroy an otherwise happy union. If there are things you and your spouse seem to never be able to agree on, ask yourself if it's worth continuing the argument or if you two would be better off just accepting that you have different viewpoints.

*There is no one way to have a successful relationship or a recipe that works for everyone. Make sure you consistently strike a balance between accepted wisdom and what you and your spouse know to be true